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I know it's wrong, yet that's why I want it?

  • Jill March 2010
    Hello, having some confusion over my ex. We weren't together that long and there's lots he did which proved he was not a nice person. Anyway he contacted me out of the blue recently on a few occassions, saying he knows it's way too late now but that he regrets being the way he was to such a lovely girl, he knows he wouldn't have a chance now because of how he treated me and said he didn't want anything but to say sorry. I asked if he was after the obvious, but he said he just felt he should apologise. I don't necessarily believe him but I'm still curious, and would like to hear what he had to say face to face. I can't explain it because I know it wouldn't be a good idea to get involved even to talk about things and yet I want to see him. It's almost as if because it's bad I want to play against the rules. Should I meet up with him or leave it? And how do I say about meeting up and be in control of the whole situation? Thank you.
  • Anonymous Comment 1,Female, March 2010
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    I think you should meet up with him and talk things over with him. Make him feel like your not playing around, try being as serious as possible. Don't meet anywere fancy. But deffienetly make sure you show that your going to be in control. But I really sugguest you talk to him about it, and if it dosen't work out this time around, then it just wasn't made to work you.
    Hope this helped!
  • ComplexComplex Comment 2, April 2010
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    i think u should lave it sounds like he realized he made a mistake but most of the time they dont change so if u do meet up it might not go well
  • TwangTwang Comment 3, April 2010
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    You don't say why he "was not a nice person" but if it was any kind of abuse you should keep well away. People like that are manipulative and will say anything to get their old "toy" back so they can have another play.
    Be very careful!
  • Anonymous Comment 4,Female, June 2010
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    Play it safe, hun. First of all, NEVER let an abusive guy back into a relationship. But, if what he did was minor, and he's willing to change, then I'd say to hear him out. Like an anonymous tip said before, don't go anywhere fancy. Don't dress up too nicely or bother to make yourself any more beautiful than you already are. If he's serious, he'll accept you as you are. Don't let him know you want to be involved. Keep him in the "friend zone" as long as possible and see if he has really changed. HTH.
  • Anonymous Comment 5,Female, August 2010
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    You know, I think you should give him a chance if he really just wants to apologize. You don't even have to meet up with him, you guys could just talk on the phone and if he wants to get back together and you're not comfortable with that just say no. You don't have to deal with his crap if you don't want anything to do with him.
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