Me and my best friend are so so close. i help her with everything she gives me advice and i give her advice. But this is one thing i cant tell her about, it would complicate things. She was with a guy for 2 months and she really liked him, we recently started hanging round with an old friend. He is so nice, he just split with his girlfriend because she cheated on him with 3 guys. He is heartbroken, he confinds in me and my best friend. Me and him have so much in common its scary. He is good looking, funny, caring, sweet and he hates other guys who just want sex from girls. Well i think i have feelings for him, he is the one guy who makes me smile and actually seems to care about me. But last night my friend told me that she was thinking of splitting with her boyfriend, because he is pushy and keeps asking for sex, he wants a really serious relationship and she doesnt. I cant blame her she is 15 and so is he. Yes she wanted things to last ut she didnt want to get complicated and serious.
She then told me that she feels differently around him, she said its confusing. She likes him but when she is with the other guy he makes her smile so much and she feels happier with him. Her boyfriend and her split last night, and she was so upset. He was being a dick about it. He told me that he was inviting a girl round to his for some fun. eah she wanted to split with him but she didnt think he would act like that. I told her she should think about what she was doing before she confronted him about her feelings. I was right cause soon after she started to miss him. But what she said about this other guy has really got me thinking. I was going to wait at least a month before i told him how i felt so i could be sure of my feelings and because of what him and his ex were going through, but now i dont know if i should tell him at all, my friend really deserves someone like him and i really dont know if i should tell her i know she would want to know but i want her to be happy without worrying about me. I know we're only 15 and to most people this would sound stupid but i really dont know what to do. please help.
You should tell her you like him too, and both make a pact that neither of you will date him. If you think this situation is complicated, it will only be worse if either of you start seeing this guy. At the very least, wait it out for a while and see if you both still have feelings for him later. Your friend may just be looking for a rebound/fallback relationship. Neither of you should date him unless the other is over him and/or has moved on. Your friendship is more important than boys and even though it's hard, try not to focus so much on dating and who likes who. There are more important things to concentrate on right now. Enjoy being young now because once it's gone, you can't get it back. You have your whole life to find the right guy for you. No need to worry about that now.
You should just see how it goes. You said you were going to wait a while right? So wait and see how it goes. It's the responsible thing to do and You should let your friend do what she wants. If the downfall of waiting is that she ends up with him, at least you know you've done the right thing. And you never know how it's going to work out with them.