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I failed my first year at University and I'm afraid that my Dad will hate me for the whole summer.

  • Jill May 2011
    I know exactly why I failed and it won't ever happen ever again. I was so lazy all year, I went to next to no lectures and didn't do any essays. I passed the Summer portion of my exams fine but because of how awfully I did at Christmas and because I was too lazy to do my essays I've ended up failing the entire year and wasting €7000 of my parents' money. I'm so ashamed of myself. I've never felt so bad in my whole life. My mum is really upset with me but I'm worried that my dad is too disappointed in me to speak to me ever again. He works so hard all day and hardly ever takes a break, we're struggling to pay bills in the house and I have three younger brothers. He's after spending so much money to send me to college this year and he's paying again next year because I was changing to a different college to study something that actually interests me. I've never done anything bad before so this will be the first time I'll have really and truly upset him. This goes beyond silly arguments. I'm so ashamed and disappointed in myself and I don't know how I'll ever be able to make it up to him or make him understand how truly, truly sorry I am. Please help me out here. I have no excuse for what has happened. It was all because of me being lazy and selfish. I'll never do it again. How can I get him to understand that so that he won't be angry at me forever. I really don't want him to be angry at me. Please help.
  • Anonymous Comment 1,Female, May 2011
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    This may sound a little too simple, but just talk things out with him. He'll be a little frustrated, and that's understandable because of the financial situation, but he's your Dad. No matter what, whether it's your mom, or your dad, they'll never truly hate you. I advise just spending sometime with him, and actually voice your concerns that you're afraid he'll hate you. Hopefully he'll assure you that he won't, and then you have to prove yourself in your new college. You messed up this year, but prove to him and your mom, that you're not a failure. We all make mistakes. Hope things work out for you

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