Worried about a friend

Jill

So, my friend is like a little brother to me, we've been best friends since we were 11, in May his best friend died and since then he's been getting into a bit of the hood rat scene, hanging out with iffy people that I know are pretty shady, and I am super worried about him. I know that he has been involved with some really bad situations, like my friend just got shot a week ago and I know that he was there, and I'm just super worried that he's going to get himself killed or locked up. I just want to know if there's anything I can do to help him see the light.

savageconehead

First thing, talk to him. Tell him what he is doing is wrong and what can happen to him.

Anonymous

When someone close to you is in danger the best thing to do is keep asking them a very simple question. This can be either 'are you ok'?, 'is anything wrong?' or 'how has everything been going for you'? these questions look pretty simple on paper but the less detailed the question, the more detailed the answers will be. It might seem at first that this doesnt work, but you need to KEEP asking (not to the point where it becomes irritating, just enough to show you care.) When you try to ask him questions, above everything else, dont come across that you are trying to control him or dictate what he can or cant do. Assure that you are there for him and will support him no matter what he does wrong. This is a stronger commitment than what most people think. When i was taking drugs the best thing my friend did to me was support me by letting me make my own mistakes. If i was in a life or death situation she would have stepped in. By knowing that she would still love me if i continued to make these mistakes, i felt motivation to make her proud by cleaning up my act. Im still no angel but by knowing i have someone to pick me up when i am down, im always striving to better myself. Bottom line, just be there for him. I hope this helps

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